Asalaamu Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu all.
As it took me long minute to catch my breathe after reading this Surah and specifically the ayah below and reflecting on its meaning. I couldn’t help, but feel guilt in my heart or feeling inspired to be patient with my parents as they getting ill and old now.
There are the ayahs that changed my whole perspective on questioning if I did/didn’t do enough for my parents. To motivate me to be more patient.
To not stress them, because lets be honest they are the only ones who truly feel our pain.
Surah Al-Isra (The Night): Ayah 23 & 24
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا٢٣
And your Lord has decreed that you not worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them [so much as], “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.
وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا٢٤
And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.”
SubhanaAllah. What’s more beautiful is how having mercy on our parents and giving them good treatment came after the name of Allah.
However, I’m dealing with these challenges right now. I have listened to my mother recite this ayah before, but I never look into it then. Maybe because I thought I was just doing fine. Nacudubillah.
Everyday is a new day with new test.
I don’t know why, but I slowly became everything that I said I’ll never be. That is the worst kind of person to be. Expecting everyday to be sunny and not storms. As soon as I noticed that I couldn’t stand myself. I had to make changes. Make changes, by not questioning if I’m doing enough for my parents.
My cure is always in The Word of Allah; The Quran.
My take away from this Surah and especially the Ayahs is how Allah Azawajal knows about our true intentions.
To recieve the mercy of Allah is to have mercy on others. Before having mercy on others we must have mercy on our parents first. Espically when they need us, when they’re not able to do the things they used to.
O’ Allah have mercy on our parents, and have mercy on us.
Allahuma Aameen. 💕