No one can understand your pain and no one can also take it away, but your Creator.
You can cry to a friend for hours, but wallah the only thing they can say to you in the end is they are sorry.
When a person is suffering, but they seem to take it just fine, we wonder about what they do.
- There is a big difference between complaining to your Creator and complaining about your Creator.
For example, when we question and complain about Allah with our problems, that will do no good, but harm our hearts. However, when we complain to Him and prostrate and show him that we are grateful and asking Him to make it easy for us will heal our hearts.
Growing up, I used to listen to my aunt recite Surah Yusuf for me and it’s transition. As a child it taught me to always be generous and be nice to people even when you know they are wrong. As an adult it taught me something that will forever be with me.
Few years back, I remember I used to do this “don’t keep everything to yourself. That it is okay to let it all out.” Now I know that as long as I complain to my Creator that is all I ever needed.
For instance, in Surah Yusuf, when Yacub (Jacob) A.S said, “I only complain to Allah.”
The ayah below is my way of coping now. With everything that’s going on with me, it means that Allah can only take care of me.
(Surah Yusuf) Ayah: 86 [Quran 12:86]
قَالَ إِنَّمَا أَشْكُو بَثِّي وَحُزْنِي إِلَى اللَّهِ وَأَعْلَمُ مِنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَا تَعْلَمُونَ
He said, “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah, and I know from Allah that which you do not know.
When your legs are weak and your heart is broken make sure it takes you to prayer that will cure your heart.