So many of us (including myself) are obsessed with time, having some sort of timeline to accomplish something, or start something.. With everything going on in the world right now. It came to me very clear that we can all plan, but only Allah’s plan comes through in the end.
Lesson From Surah Al-Qamar
Salaam,
I have been doing reflections of the Quran, just never got around to post it on here.
The ayah below is an ayah from surah Al-Qamar ayah 17. This specific ayah is in the surah 3x.
وَلَقَدْ يَسَّرْنَا الْقُرْآنَ لِلذِّكْرِ فَهَلْ مِن مُّدَّكِرٍ
And We have certainly made the Qur’an easy for remembrance, so is there any who will remember?
I was reading surah Al-Qamar two nights ago. It was very different from the other times I read this surah. It all hit me when I read the ayah for the second time around. I got stuck on the first part of the ayah “And We have certainly made the Qur’an EASY for remembrance”
The reason I got stuck is because I always make dua to Allah to make the Quran easy for me to learn, to remember and reflect. This very ayah made me realize that Allah indeed accepted my dua. And it up to me to do the work now.
All praise is due to Allah
I am sure many of you can relate. Growing up I was told to simply read, learn, and memorize the Quran. As I got older I became motivated to actually understand what I am reading.
What you seek is what you get. 🌹
Fear
The easiest thing one can do about not facing their fear is not facing it all together. They’re comfortable with where they are at in life, but they’re not content with it. It’s not because they are ungrateful, it is just that they do not want to face their fears.
Fear is the destruction of the truth.
There are two kinds of fear one that comes from things that we may think will hurt us. Whereas, the other is it does not exist, but it has its way of controlling an individual. Therefore, fear is not something that comes from within. Being afraid of something (success, goals… etc) for no reason can be linked to many causes. And it has a lot to do with the environment that one may have been put in.
The reason that fear is the destruction of the truth is that we do not truly know what we say we’re afraid of is actually something that we are afraid of. It is so easy to say it than simply doing it.
New Beginnings..
New beginnings automatically send a signal to your subconscious, that signal being a way to restart. To do it the right way- or any other way you haven’t tried yet. The scariest thing one can do with their time is purposely not doing it right when they get a second chance to make it right.
Life is exactly how you take it. And you are exactly where you need to be; if you are comfortable with where you are.
Your surrounds determine what kind of person you want to become. What/who you accept into your life is very important.
The beauty of new beginnings makes it hard for old habits to die.
If a new day feels like just another day. If the reset button feels like is just a resume button. Something needs to change. Change simply does not happen overnight.
Go out of your way to do better little by little.
Broken She..
Whenever I look into her eyes. There’s this sadness or something troubling her that wants me to ask more questions.. I don’t know how to go about it exactly.
People say “that’s just her.” I think there’s more to it. It’s like her smiles are not even real. I mean.. I could be wrong, people say the same about my smile. Now I sound like I am being judgmental.
Do I have the right to say those things even though this is my to figure out and help? Am I crossing the line that I shouldn’t be crossing? I don’t know…
There’s this saying that’s stuck in my head “the happiest people are the most broken ones.” I have been there, but I had God all those times.
Every now and then it’s good to have people who check on us.
Feelings..
Expressing your feelings can be confusing at times. For instance, if you feel too much, you’re emotional, and soft. If you don’t feel anything, you’re just stuck up.
I always chose to be stuck up than be a emotional package. No one crossed my way and I wanted it to keep it that way for as long as I could.
Then I realized that saying exactly how you feel and what you’re feeling is actually healthy for you mental, instead of keeping it all in.
It’s one of the best things that happened to me.
When telling people how you feel, be careful about who you share it with. They might use it against you to their advantage.
Never be too ashamed of expressing yourself. 🌸
Guilt…
SHORT REFLECTION
Be careful about people who make you question about your sanity. Who makes you apologize when they do you wrong.
Guilt tripping is a talent that is a oneway.
Toxicity and guilty tripping have one thing in common. They want to have control of one’s state of emotion at all times.
There are people who come into our lives and they make us/break us.
I am not a big fan of people who are toxic. When toxic people come into our lives, we cannot recognize their mysterious characteristics because we easily think “that’s just who they are.” As humans, we love strangeness and not think twice about how a stranger could turn into a pile of toxicity and have control over our state of mind. Toxic people are the most narcissistic beings.
Don’t tolerate it. You will become exactly what you accept.
Authenticity
Acceptance: 1
Acceptance is something every human being desire. The sense to be included. However, it is healthy to recognize something if it’s/isn’t good for you. Wanting to be accepted is very normal. It is not normal to change yourself to be accepted into a certain group, family, or even a partner.
Everyone is struggling with something. Make sure to let go of the things that may hold you back from being authentically yourself. Many people that walked into my life made me appreciate their toxicity, compassion, and the need to change me.
Be true to yourself
When you’re in a toxic friendship or relationship you don’t know what you’re facing right there and then, but as soon as you cut ties with such and such. You learn to appreciate that because it becomes a life lesson. And if you continue to let that happen then it becomes a choice. Be true to yourself at all times.
If you know yourself, you know when to walk away and protect yourself from any form of toxicity within such circles.
Self-Compassion
The best kind of gift one can give is their sincere word of advice.
There’s nothing wrong with advicing one all together, but we live in a century where if we turn on podcasts and read books; all they have in common is what we should do in order to succeed. Who to network with, who to be kind to, and respect.
And speaking of self-help, my go to guide on picking myself up was talking down on myself to get things done. The fancy term: Self-criticism
Though my support system always made sure that I am good in such categories (I am beautiful, kind, funny, smart…etc).
I just realized that I was the toxicity that I have been trying to get rid of all this time.
I was not kind to myself.
When I genuinely cared for others, I made sure to BEAT myself down and hide behind my shadow.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
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