Expressing your feelings can be confusing at times. For instance, if you feel too much, you’re emotional, and soft. If you don’t feel anything, you’re just stuck up.
I always chose to be stuck up than be a emotional package. No one crossed my way and I wanted it to keep it that way for as long as I can.
Then I realized that saying exactly how you feel and what you’re feeling is actually healthy for you mental, instead of keeping it all in.
It’s the best things that ever happened to me.
When telling people how you feel, be careful about who you share it with. They might use it against you to their advantage.
Never be too ashamed of expressing yourself. 🌸
Be careful about people who make you question about your sanity. Who makes you apologize when they do you wrong.
Guilt tripping is a talent that is a oneway.
Toxicity and guilty tripping have one thing in common. They want to have control of one’s state of emotion at all times.
There are people who come into our lives and they make us/break us.
I am not a big fan of people who are toxic. When toxic people come into our lives, we cannot recognize their mysterious characteristics because we easily think “that’s just who they are.” As humans, we love strangeness and not think twice about how a stranger could turn into a pile of toxicity and have control over our state of mind. Toxic people are the most narcissistic beings.
Don’t tolerate it. You will become exactly what you accept.
There’s nothing more liberating than being the truest of all.
This is a short reflection:
She is always there to help others and help them realize that there are capable of doing great things. She keeps herself busy to avoid her own problems.
The time she put herself out there and break her silence, she’s told to “get over yourself, it’s all in your head.”
When things go right for her, she’s so grateful enough not to share it. She may be not strong, but she is considerate.
Things are never the way they seem.
Acceptance is something every human being desire. The sense to be included. However, it is healthy to recognize something if it’s/isn’t good for you. Wanting to be accepted is very normal. It is not normal to change yourself to be accepted into a certain group, family, or even a partner.
Everyone is struggling with something. Make sure to let go of the things that may hold you back from being authentically yourself. Many people that walked into my life made me appreciate their toxicity, compassion, and the need to change me.
Be true to yourself
When you’re in a toxic friendship or relationship you don’t know what you’re facing right there and then, but as soon as you cut ties with such and such. You learn to appreciate that because it becomes a life lesson. And if you continue to let that happen then it becomes a choice. Be true to yourself at all times.
If you know yourself, you know when to you walk away and protect yourself from any form of toxicity within such circles.
The best kind of gift one can give is their sincere word of advice.
There’s nothing wrong with advicing one all together, but we live in a century where if we turn on podcasts and read books; all they have in common is what we should do in order to succeed. Who to network with, who to be kind to, and respect.
And speaking of self-help, my go to guide on picking myself up was talking down on myself to get things done. The fancy term: Self-criticism
Though my support system always made sure that I am good in such categories (I am beautiful, kind, funny, smart…etc).
I just realized that I was the toxicity that I have been trying to get rid of all this time.
I was not kind to myself.
When I genuinely cared for others, I made sure to BEAT myself down and hide behind my shadow.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
I can talk about The Mercy of Allah for so long, how The Mercy of Allah cannot be measured. Sometimes you may not be able to see it, but you can only feel it.
As humans we are so close minded when we think of the hardship that comes before us, we only think of ways getting out of, than seeing the reason why we are in this situation. That there is a greater good in it.
I have noticed it that whenever I get too comfortable with the way I am living, something comes out of somewhere and I get tested for the things I consider to be good for me. How do we know what is good for us? I mean a healthy, clean environment is good for us. What is not good for us is to dwell on the things (hardship) that we have no power to change.
One must make sure that they have a positive attitude. How you go through is what you will remember.
Be good to yourself.
If you do not know yourself enough to stand up for yourself, someone else will tell you where you belong and they will use it for their own good. Self-awareness is very important. The people you let in your life will tell you who you are and it is up to you to teach about yourself. You don’t want to end up lost in between finding about your true self. Write your story with your own pen. When you let others write your life story and the ink dries there’s no going back.
ALWAYS have control of what can and cannot break you.
Humans may speak many languages, but kindness is one that is understood by all mankind.
What you feed your mind is just as important as what you feed your body.
Remember, when one knows their worth there is no way that they will take bullsh*t from anyone.
Don’t be hard on yourself, but always appreciate for the good and apologize when you do wrong.