Acceptance is something every human being desire. The sense to be included. However, it is healthy to recognize something if it’s/isn’t good for you. Wanting to be accepted is very normal. It is not normal to change yourself to be accepted into a certain group, family, or even a partner.
Everyone is struggling with something. Make sure to let go of the things that may hold you back from being authentically yourself. Many people that walked into my life made me appreciate their toxicity, compassion, and the need to change me.
Be true to yourself
When you’re in a toxic friendship or relationship you don’t know what you’re facing right there and then, but as soon as you cut ties with such and such. You learn to appreciate that because it becomes a life lesson. And if you continue to let that happen then it becomes a choice. Be true to yourself at all times.
If you know yourself, you know when to you walk away and protect yourself from any form of toxicity within such circles.
The best kind of gift one can give is their sincere word of advice.
There’s nothing wrong with advicing one all together, but we live in a century where if we turn on podcasts and read books; all they have in common is what we should do in order to succeed. Who to network with, who to be kind to, and respect.
And speaking of self-help, my go to guide on picking myself up was talking down on myself to get things done. The fancy term: Self-criticism
Though my support system always made sure that I am good in such categories (I am beautiful, kind, funny, smart…etc).
I just realized that I was the toxicity that I have been trying to get rid of all this time.
I was not kind to myself.
When I genuinely cared for others, I made sure to BEAT myself down and hide behind my shadow.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF.
I can talk about The Mercy of Allah for so long, how The Mercy of Allah cannot be measured. Sometimes you may not be able to see it, but you can only feel it.
As humans we are so close minded when we think of the hardship that comes before us, we only think of ways getting out of, than seeing the reason why we are in this situation. That there is a greater good in it.
I have noticed it that whenever I get too comfortable with the way I am living, something comes out of somewhere and I get tested for the things I consider to be good for me. How do we know what is good for us? I mean a healthy, clean environment is good for us. What is not good for us is to dwell on the things (hardship) that we have no power to change.
One must make sure that they have a positive attitude. How you go through is what you will remember.
Be good to yourself.
If you do not know yourself enough to stand up for yourself, someone else will tell you where you belong and they will use it for their own good. Self-awareness is very important. The people you let in your life will tell you who you are and it is up to you to teach about yourself. You don’t want to end up lost in between finding about your true self. Write your story with your own pen. When you let others write your life story and the ink dries there’s no going back.
ALWAYS have control of what can and cannot break you.
Humans may speak many languages, but kindness is one that is understood by all mankind.
What you feed your mind is just as important as what you feed your body.
Remember, when one knows their worth there is no way that they will take bullsh*t from anyone.
Don’t be hard on yourself, but always appreciate for the good and apologize when you do wrong.
Not many of us are being told to slow down and let life be as it is. Especially when you grow older. No one warned us about holding onto things. We are expected to be such and such.
Care too much about it from far, but care too much for yourself enough to not let it hurt you.
From personal experience, I am slowly learning to care less about the things that will, in the end, break me. Slowly starting to appreciate the things I have and the things I will never end up having. Because if its good to me, I’d have it my way. And that saying goes for one who is struggling to let things as it is.
You may be loving someone/something so much that you start letting go of yourself. As for humans, the moment we start letting go of ourselves is the moment we will stop recognizing our self- worth. A good example would be, water is good for our bodies, we are expected to drink water, but if we drink it too much it could harm us.
To end with, love yourself enough to eliminate the things that may harm you even when they seem to be good for you.
Short story about a beautiful stranger:
She is not who she used to be. Is it because she is tired of letting in? Change is good they say, but that is not the case for her. She is the opposite of what change is supposed to be. Change should make one happy not angry and emotional roller coaster. She is not known for who she is, but she is known for who people want her to be. And people still question about why she wants to change. She is lost in her own shadow.
Drowning in her own thoughts.
She is fighting off the idea of her failing. She seems happy every waken day. Deep down she is suffering.
She is suffering from wanting to not want. She is suffering from proving herself to those that could careless about her.
She gets lost in her thoughts talking her way out of the things that she actually deserve. When an opportunity knocks on the door she will do whatever it takes to not bring it into her life.
Smiles were made to share, but she only smile to get by…
They are people that walked into her life. And they left her broken. Making her believe that her life will never get better without them in it.
Little did she know that all she needed was herself to do better in life. And little do they know that when she forgives, she never forgets.
She is starting to believe that she’s okay when all she is now is broken.
There is no such thing as perfection.
She hurts herself as she collects the pieces of her heart.
She seems like she’s full of life.
She said: “People will see exactly what you want them to see in you, but in the end the only person worth knowing you is yourself.”